Flow of Day 3
Story of Day 3
by Ai Vuong
Day three is our second, and last full day together. Just as I am beginning to settle into the morning practices and my body begins to attune to the others around me, I am also preparing myself to say goodbye. Day three is always tough for me: It is a reminder that we are bound by the constraints of time. We are a shifting constellation, and when we make choices to step up, step in and show up to connect with another person, we still must continue moving.
If I take a deep breath, I realize the sensation of standing at the edge of time creates space for presence and gratitude. I exhale in the morning circle, grateful for this space and all of people who have stepped into the circle.
The gratitudes linger as we organize ourselves into a semi-circle to learn about Powerful Questions. What makes a question powerful? How do we craft questions that lead to more curiosity? Is life not but a series of endless questions?
What questions are arising in me? What new possibilities do these questions invite? Which questions have the most energy right now? Swirling in those questions, we go on a Solo Walk. As I walk, inhaling in the fresh Ninh Binh air, the sun rays tingling on my skin, I navigate those questions in my body: which ones occupy space in my mind, and which are the ones which occupy my heart?
After about thirty minutes of the solo walk, we gather again the room for the Wicked Questions Game, a method to invite more questions from others in order to sharpen our own. Each participant is asked to write his/her question on a piece of paper and sit in a chair in front of others. This is my third training in Art of Hosting, and the Wicked Questions Game is the first technology in which you are invited to sit facing others, who are responding to your question in the form of more questions. There is no equality or even distribution of energy. The focus is primarily on the person sitting in the chair with the question in black and white in front of their chest: How can I practice self-compassion? How can I create a deeper relationship with my brother? How can I have tough conversations with my mother? It is vulnerable. It is isolating. It is also invigorating as each of the four people in the other chairs bring up questions that you had never thought of, or perhaps questions you have been avoiding yourself.